You’ve done this a million times before….
All you really want is something to drink and maybe a bite to eat. There are twelve steps if you don’t include the landing, but this time.
Somehow this time you miss those two little steps…
This is it. This is how it all ends.
They’re going to find you at the foot of the stairs in footie pajamas, with big yellow duckies on them, and you won’t be around to explain that the pajamas were a gift. Yet, somehow at the last minute, SAFE! But your heart doesn’t know that yet.
We tend to get that same “this is it” feeling when we lose friends. Or those we thought were friends, and it takes our hearts awhile to process that we are actually ok, that we have survived the fall; will live to see another day, and can stand back up again.
Friends or people are here for a reason.
Usually there’s three main reasons. They could be a moment(reason), a season, or a lifetime. To be completely honest nobody wants just a momentary person. A seasonal person is somewhat ok, because they could turn into a lifetime person. Nonetheless, the one everyone is after is the lifetime friend, the one who sticks around through thick or thin, who will tell you when you are wrong and praise you when you are right. The sad truth is there are more moment and season people than there is lifetime.
Everyone has a season. Everyone-
Moment people will get you through a tough situation, whether good, bad, or indifferent. They are there to teach you a lesson, and then poof! Gone. The seasonal people are there for just – a season, that season could last from a month to years until that season is over then they too, are gone. There is a possibility that they may return or they may not. Conversely, the elusive lifetime people/friends, you know the ones that are there to stay, even though they may occasionally float in and out, (but when all is said and done always have and will be around) are what we are all really searching for. The friends that songs are made about and FaceBook statuses elude too. For lifetime people there is no timeframe or time limit on the friendship/relationship.
When it comes to these different seasons (and that’s what these three are: moment, season, lifetime) they tend to cause an out of control feeling for a lot of people, myself included, because (a) we can’t control other people, no matter how much we pretend to or try too, and (b) they, season/changes, will happen whether we want them to or not. It’s hard not being in control of things and that can cause anxiety or fear (did you know the bible mentions fear 365 times, that’s a whole different topic). We must remember that through it all:
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. (Ecclesiastes 3:1)
Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8)
– He can be your lifetime if you let him and you never have to worry about a “this is it” feeling.
-He will never change on you.
I know it may seem rough right now, and it seems as if you are losing friends left and right (and you probably are), your “circle” may be getting smaller, and you keep “missing stairs”, but hold on! The fact that Jesus never changes and the seasons do makes for a very promising future.